I ran the Minneapolis Half Marathon last weekend. The route was "out
and back", meaning that when we got to a certain point, we turned around
and ran back in the other direction. There were a number of spots
along the first half of the course where it would have been easy to just
turn around and blend in with the runners who were already heading in
the other direction, thereby cutting out part of the mileage. Yes, that
would be cheating, but it would have gotten me to the finish line
faster, and almost no one would have noticed.
The problem is, doing that would have meant missing out on part of the course. Maybe the best part.
In
our culture, we have this mentality of focusing on the finish line.
And it's understandable. For runners, seeing that huge cheering crowd
at the very end of the race, and then crossing the finish line and being
given a medal (and more importantly, some Gatorade and a banana!), are
fantastic rewards for the effort that we've put in until that point.
But there's more to running a race than crossing the finish. There are
rewards along the way. Really valuable rewards.
The same is true for all of life. We spend so much of our time
thinking about achieving a certain goal, or passing a certain landmark.
A small-scale example of this happened to me yesterday. It was
Wednesday, and all I could focus on was the anticipation of the weekend
ahead. I just wanted to get to Friday, and get on with my weekend
plans. But that mentality is problematic, because wishing away time
means wishing away all the small beautiful things that happen during the
interim. An unanticipated summer rainstorm. A lively discussion at
book club. A picnic in the park with some of my favorite ladies. Listening to Ben tell me about his day. Those are
joys that I wouldn't want to miss for anything - even a shortcut to the
weekend.
This is an easy trap to fall into on a larger scale too. I remember
my final year of high school, pining to get out of my parents' house and
move into my college dorm, believing that with this transition would
come a greater sense of independence. I remember my last semester of
college, just wishing for graduation so that I could move to Minneapolis
and get started with "real life" (i.e. grad school, which in retrospect
is a far cry from ACTUAL real life!). I remember being single in my
early 20s, so impatient about meeting the man of my dreams, essentially
believing that nothing profound could happen until my goal of marriage
was achieved. In all of these cases, the over-focusing on an event in
the future left me unable to really enjoy all of the great things that
were happening in the present.
It's exciting to focus on the finish line - the end goal. But in
doing so excessively, we miss a lot of beauty along the way. I am
guessing that a lot of other people can relate to the lure of the
finish. I'd like to throw out this challenge to you: take a step back
from whatever future point you are focused on today. Be thankful for
the present. Run the entire race. Enjoy the small beauty that is
present in every step. The finish line will be there whenever you get to
it.
Wow. Well said. Love this. Thanks for your insight, Kate.
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